Is it possible to let go of the dual soul?
Karin SIlvina Hiebaum
Very often you read about the famous letting go, about the dual soul and about unrequited feelings of love.
A topic that I don’t necessarily think much of.
Everyone tells you to let go of your dual soul, but no one really explains to you how this should work.
And if you are honest with yourself, you know that letting go is easily pronounced, but there is a huge lack of implementation.
And the more you want to let go, the more the other part of the soul will hold you in yourself.
It is often presented as one of the tasks between dual souls to let go if the other does not «work» as you wish.
I don’t see this as a task, but as giving up.
Surely you should «let the other go» if he is not ready for this relationship, because this non-ready being can have many and also profound reasons.
These many words written about letting go often sound very clever and coherent, but let’s be honest: Who wants to let go of what he loves so much? And above all: Who can do it? And an even more important question: Why let go???
What you love, you can’t let go, because if you love, then you just love, you feel as deep as never before, are mentally so filled with this love, how do you want to be able to let go and where to let go, yes, and once again the question … Why?
No, you can’t let go of what you love, it lives in the heart, fills the soul, this love belongs to you.
You can’t let go of what gives you hope at the moment …
You can’t let go of what fulfills your heart so much …
You can’t let go of what makes your soul shine and sing … NO … what for?
It makes sense why these feelings are with you.
But what you can do is: don’t hold on, don’t cling, don’t run after what doesn’t want you or doesn’t want you yet … BUT you can’t just let go of your feelings.
It’s your feelings, they live in you, with you, with you and also to some extent with the other person.
They are in you to live and feel, and yes, also to be loved, not to desperately try to let them go and thus fight a hopeless fight.
Feelings that are with you at the moment, want to be felt, they want to be looked at and accepted.
For you personally, letting go of the same would mean repressing that there is something deep inside you that absolutely wants to be felt would mean for you to push away, to ignore, to repress. You would also deny yourself a bit at this moment, because you want to free yourself from «your» feelings by letting them go, even though they still want to be felt with you and in you.
I can only speak for myself personally, but this much-cited way of letting go would rob me of my peace of mind in the long run. It would cost me a lot of energy that I could invest in caring for my soul. It would pinch and nudge me at all corners and in all depths of my soul, and want to draw attention to itself in every possible way. Because you can’t let go of feelings.
Most likely, this let go would sit in an empty seat inside me and wait patiently until he could feel loud again, report in my life.
The «let go» would then constantly draw your attention from there to the fact that you simply repress and do not «let go», that you move something here into your dark abysses, which can make you sick, instead of letting to light what wants to be seen and felt, to be lived and loved there either way and to experience healing.
You don’t have to let go, YOU should live out, experience, feel, feel and, if necessary, cry and rage, mourn and cry again, but don’t let go of something that belongs to you.
Why don’t you want to walk through all these emotions, quite consciously, so that, if it should be, to be able to consciously say goodbye to something that your being was allowed to fill for a while?
And if you have experienced, looked at and processed all these emotions, then, if you have decided for yourself, you can slowly begin to separate yourself from these feelings.
I have made the experience that exactly what I wanted to let go of, which I repressed for myself personally, came back into my life on another level in a new guise, until I «delivered» myself to the feelings, she felt, looked and accepted and looked at what my soul should experience here.
I learned that every little feeling stays with me until I faced him and dealt with him. If I didn’t do this, it continued to grow over time and with every non-observance, or just letting go, until it filled me so far, yes, dominated, and I was forced to look at it and «experience».
Then these emotions, deep feelings, etc., let go of me in a «miraculose» way or they surprisingly developed into what they always wanted to be … a welcome part of myself.
I don’t let go because it won’t work, I let myself be guided by my feelings, if necessary also by the pain until they leave me or take the place they are entitled to in me. I was always grateful for it in retrospect, because nowhere did I learn more about myself than with and through my accepted and experienced feelings.
The truth is that you can’t let go of what lives in you.
Feelings that you have for another person, you can’t just switch off, send them away, pretend they are no longer there.
It’s your feelings, they move your soul and your heart.
You can probably let the other go, for whatever reason this may be … but you can’t let go of the feelings.
You just have to wait until they weaken on their own.
If you would try to let them go, you would have to displace them. You would probably be busy with it hour after hour, because if you love something, it is simply with you, in you and the more you try to «replace», the more you keep these thoughts and feelings alive, give them food to grow.
Let this feeling be with you, give him the place he is entitled to, in the middle of your heart, let it be loving thoughts, because everything that is out of love is good, is important to you.
Embrace your feelings and see them for what they are, a part of yourself.
Replacing would only make you sadder, bitter with time, because you feel that you only put yourself in a negative mood.
Pay attention to these feelings, they probably made you very happy for a while, look at them again and again and thank you for allowing your heart to feel this way.
If you «let go», you only repress and therefore hold on, and everything repressed will stand in front of you again at some point with full force and catch up with you mercilessly. And this can be very painful.
If you admit your feelings and deal with them, you can process them.
But letting go is not processing and thus not a cure, but displacing.
But what you can let go is the idea that you can only be happy with a certain person, that’s not true.
This is compulsive thinking, and coercion cannot bring happiness.
It has its reasons why you (still) go their separate ways with your dual soul.
Maybe other people have to cross your paths so that you are really mature for each other.
Maybe these other people who want to cross and share your path need a relationship exactly with you to learn something.
Maybe you and your dual soul have also set out separate ways for this life.
Or, which is very often the case, maybe your time is just not there yet and the other or you still have a bit of way to go with someone else to get ready for the depth of a soul love.
There are so many other souls with whom you can love, live and laugh and above all: develop.
Souls you should meet.
You have arranged to meet with some of you before this incarnation to experience certain things together, to grow from them.
Open your eyes and your heart, look around, get to know the people around you better. Look at what feelings others have for you and what you have for them.
If you fixate too much on a single person, you miss the happiness, the chance to grow.
You stop, in a continuous waiting loop, but life goes on without you, and one day you wake up and have missed many beautiful experiences.
Dual souls should often first learn and love separately from each other for a while in order to grow and love together.
Everything that happens to us happens in the sense of a universal order. We just have to trust that everything is at our best.
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